5 tips to survive in France without speaking French
We’ve all heard it: The French refuse to speak English. And many of us have experienced it firsthand. You walk into a shop or restaurant, speak in English, and all you get in return is French. And not always with a smile either.
Is it true that the French can’t or won’t speak English? And what does it take to get them to speak English?
I speak French, but I’ve often been replied to in English, despite my French being quite good (if I do say so myself!). So, it’s obvious that many French people do speak English. But why do they seem to “refuse”? Let me give you some tips and tempt an explanation.
Times are changing
Firstly, things have changed in France over the past 10-20 years. In the “old days,” lack of English skills was a bigger issue. Previously, English wasn’t the mandatory first foreign language in schools. In the southwest, Spanish was often chosen due to proximity to Spain. In the south-east, it might have been Italian, and in the east, German.
France is the world’s most visited country. The tourism industry employs millions of people, directly and indirectly. You’d think they’d be more service-oriented, given their dependence on tourists.
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Limited English skills
After living in France for a few years, I understand why the French struggle with English. They rarely hear English spoken outside of school, and even then, it’s often taught by teachers who sound like the characters from ‘Allo ‘Allo if you remember that TV show.
All foreign languages are dubbed on TV and in cinemas. Fortunately, the internet has made it easier for French youth to hear how English actually sounds when spoken by native speakers. That helps a lot.
A proud nation
You also have to consider the French as a people. They are proud and remember France as a great nation. They don’t like losing face or feeling inferior. So, when a “loud American” comes along, speaking perfect English, they go into defensive mode. They think, “Now, taste your own medicine.”
A few tips for better service in English
- Always say “Bonjour” when entering a shop or restaurant. In many places the owner themselves are in the shop, so you’re entering their home. It’s polite to look at them, smile, and greet them.
- Say “Au revoir” when leaving. It’s a tough word, but any attempt will be appreciated. (Pronounced something like “O rəvwar.”)
- Always ask if they speak English before launching into a conversation. If you can ask in French, even better! “Excusez-moi, parlez-vous anglais?”
Why should you do this? As I mentioned, the French are proud and don’t like feeling inferior. If someone approaches them speaking perfect English, they feel less competent with their limited English.
However, if you show willingness to “make a fool of yourself” by trying some basic French, you’re suddenly on the same wavelength, and they’re more willing to try. If you can’t manage French, at least ask in English first if they speak English. - Now, for what English and American people often call “the magic word.” The French “S’il vous plaît” might seem long, but it rolls off the tongue surprisingly well. (Pronounced something like “Seal voo play.”) Use it often! (And it actually means something like “If it pleases you”)
- Last, but not least: “Merci“. Which means Thank you. Always remember to say thank you, whether it’s for an answer to a question, a purchase, change, or when leaving a restaurant. It goes a long way. And don’t forget to smile.
Have a great trip to France! And thank you for reading this far.
P.S. Please don’t use “Garçon” to get a waiter’s attention. Just raise your hand or use “Monsieur” (or “Madame” if it’s a woman). And if you step on someone’s toes, feel free to say “Pardon” (Pardón).
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